Your uniqueness is your power, it is what differentiates you from everyone else, and discovering your uniqueness is one of the first steps to greatness.
No two people are the same, not even twins. You may have certain similarities with others but there is always something that differentiates you…at least your fingerprints.
When God created each of us, He made us peculiar and He destined that we have our peculiar purpose and outcome.
Some people struggle to figure out their uniqueness because they have not taken out time to discover who they are. So many people are carried away with seeking acceptance and approval from others or from their immediate society that they become so engulfed with fitting to the trend thereby denying their true self the opportunity to emanate.
In this article, I will be sharing the importance of discovering your uniqueness as well as practical ways to discover your uniqueness.
HOW TO DISCOVER YOUR UNIQUENESS
Based on my personal experience, I have come to the conclusion that there are 2 major ways to discover your uniqueness which are:
1.SPENDING TIME WITH YOURSELF
So many people spend time trying to be someone or something else other than their true selves.
Little or no time is spent on discovering who we are, our likes or dislikes, our values, strength, weakness, passion, or dreams.
An average person wants to be what the world desires of them and they force themselves to fit in regardless of the yearnings of their true selves.
We all need to spend time to learn who we are and develop ourselves. Yes, I said development because we all have potentials, traits, and attributes that have not been exhibited because of a lack of development.
There is so much about you that you do not know because you have not taken the time to explore yourself.
For instance, there are so many features on your phone or your gadgets that you never knew existed until you stumbled on them through time spent in exploring and gaining more knowledge about the gadget.
We are just like our gadgets. We need time and attention to discover some of our wonderful and unique features.
It is in the place of development and time spent with yourself that you discover some of your core strengths and weaknesses as well as how to manage yourself in order to be of the best performance.
2. SPENDING TIME WITH GOD
Spending time with God helps you to discover who you are in Christ Jesus. We are two separate individuals when we are in Christ and when we are outside Christ.
Outside Christ, you get to discover the unrefined or unrenewed you that might make your uniqueness at the time seem like a negative attribute.
For instance, before I was saved by God, one of my unique attributes was my daring and blunt nature. I always said, ‘’I cannot hide my feelings regardless of who you are.’’ Most times that made me come out as rude and I saw that as a negative quality but I cared less at the time.
When I got saved, I went through the process of pruning. God began to work on my character; He got rid of those that needed to be gotten rid of.
Then He adjusted those that needed to be adjusted, fine-tuned, and refined like my daring attitude. He showed me that being daring was not a bad thing if I used it appropriately. He teaches and guides me daily on how to use this attribute the right way.
Spending time with God helps you to love and accept yourself, and build your confidence enough to display your uniqueness.
God helps you to discover how to use your uniqueness to your advantage; He helps you to overcome fear and doubt.
He helps you to live above your weaknesses by turning your weaknesses to strength.
When we spend time with God, He shows us who we are and who we can become even when we do not manifest that personality.
For instance, God called Gideon a mighty warrior at a time when Gideon was in fear and in hiding from His enemies and Gideon turned out to be a great leader and warrior indeed (see Judges 6:12).
Also, God called Abraham a father of many nations at a time when he had no child and had no hope of having any because he was advanced in age but we know how he turned out, he truly became a father of nations (see Genesis 17:5).
IMPORTANCE OF YOUR UNIQUENESS
- Your uniqueness makes you stand out. It is what attracts people to you and paves a way for you. It is your power of influence and one of your tools to success especially when this uniqueness has been improved and pruned under the guidance of the Holy Spirit.
- Your uniqueness is one of the pointers that help you discover and achieve your purpose. Usually, our uniqueness and your purpose are entwined.
- Your uniqueness is your reality. It allows your true self to find expression without holding back, which shows you accept and love yourself just the way you were created. This is a great source of joy and fulfillment in life.
LESSONS FROM THE STORY OF DAVID AND GOLIATH ABOUT UNIQUENESS
I would like to use the story of David killing Goliath to describe the importance of our uniqueness especially in attaining greatness and achieving our purpose in life.
1 Samuel Chapter 17 captures the event that led to David killing Goliath in which I learned the following about uniqueness:
1.SELF CONFIDENCE: David was only a teenage boy but it was his display of confidence in God and himself that gave him the audience before the king which led to him fighting Goliath (see 1 Samuel 17:32-37).
You must be confident in yourself and your uniqueness; that is one sure way to gain audience and acceptance irrespective of your status.
Generally, confidence is intriguing and it opens doors for you because of the curiosity it arouses in others.
2. IGNORE AND SHUT OUT OPPOSITION: David’s first opposition when he got to the battlefield were his brothers who talked him down; but David just ignored them. He did not let the words of his brothers kill his confidence or deter him from his mission and goal (see 1 Samuel 17:28-30).
In life, opposition is inevitable. Some people will try to talk you down or make you look stupid because of your uniqueness.
Ignore such people and avoid them as much as you can. Do not allow anyone to talk you out of living your life and expressing yourself in a way God totally approves of or in a way that gives you joy and fulfillment.
3. BE YOURSELF: David objected to being girded with the king’s armor because it made him so uncomfortable. That was not his style and he did not keep quiet just to please the king (see 1 Samuel 17:38-40).
He would have lost the battle if he went out with the armor. Going out with just a sling and a stone seemed stupid and like a suicide mission but he knew who he was in Christ, he knew his abilities and uniqueness.
We should learn to object to doing things we are not comfortable with and we should learn to completely be ourselves (our renewed, refined, and transformed self).
Do not be a people pleaser at the expense of your success in life. Most people miss out on open doors and opportunities because they are trying to be who they are not or trying to please others.
Give the world the opportunity to experience the flavor and the beauty you can add to it through your uniqueness.
Your uniqueness is not necessarily your gift or talent. It could be a character trait, attribute, or a way of expression.
Explore yourself, discover your uniqueness, and let it find expression.
BE ORIGINAL BE YOURSELF.